E/C Babies (elimination communication) is AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!

topic posted Sun, September 24, 2006 - 7:38 PM by  ~crisea~
Okay, my son is 9 months old and he went pee pee on the potty 8 times yesterday and went poop this morning.
i went to an e/c meeting just 2 days ago. i got my baby a baby bjorn potty and it is great. it is contoured so he can sit by himself in it and it even has a little splash guard. the first time this worked was after a nap (all babies need to go after a nap) i sat him on the potty and he peed. it was so awesome. i was so proud of him. since then, ive been watching for signals from him etc. we arent catching every pee, but most!

most people start babies from birth...i thought it was maybe too late but its not! youve gotta try this!
posted by:
~crisea~
Portland
  • Yeah, we did it a little bit, started around 7-8 mo. and mostly after naps. We didn't have a potty, I'd just try to catch in the sink so he could see in the mirror - he was totally breast fed still, so he could even poop there, too. Lots of naked time is essential, too. I didn't really do full on EC or anything, but read a lot about it and incorporated some of it - mostly the attitude is important! So anyway, our son is totally potty trained now and has been since under 2 1/2. He was already able to go diaperless in the house (as long as he was naked) with very rare accidents by the time he was 2. My point is that even if EC sounds daunting, time consuming, your husband's not totally on board with accidents etc: even if you do it a little bit when you can, it helps immensely later on when you're doing "potty training."
  • ok, this is a subject I know absolutely nothing about.

    I hadn't even thought it would be something I should be thinking about yet (I'm 28 weeks preg) but then it seems that there is a movement of people that are doing something from birth that is different to the diaper thing.

    please educate me!
    the only guide I've had with everything is my sister, who in many regards is very inspirational and has the same values as I, but in other she isn't (eg caring about the environment), and also this is one thing she did the mainstream way, her kid is 2.5 now and still in diapers.
    • okay, mostly his pee goes down as long as he is sitting back against the potty so it can hang down.
      as far as getting started...u can start from birth! babies dont want to soil themselves, its only natural!
      i agree w/cory even if u can just catch the morning pee it helps for future training. i am spreading the word about this!
      im lucky im a sahm so i have time to devote to this. good luck!
  • i have been doing a little reading about diaperless babies and my partner and i are reading this thread now and discussing it. can somebody please explain the logic of it? i am getting the idea that it might be traumatic for kids to be diapered and that it might be more respectful of them somehow to not diaper? does it seem to you your kids are benefitting psychologically in some way from this? i know it's good for the environment and facilitates potty training -- but in more immediate, babycentric terms, why do it?
    • I am with you HP, but I diapered three kids and really they have no issues. But to the other end, we are thinking about having another one and this is really something I would like to do with the next one. To me it would be more of a deeper connection with the baby. But then I am so close to my girls it would hard to imagine we could be any closer.

      Ok, I'm torn...LOL
      • i'm also thinking a lot about why babies cry so much when they're getting their diapers changed -- maybe it is wrong in some way? we're still trying to get our heads around it. also, my partner's concerned about waking up, as he says, "covered in poop." i wonder how people handle night time?
        • I would think one of the reasons a baby would cry is that she is all warm and snug in that diaper and all of a sudden it is really cold and drafty on her bits, BAM! I am cold and wet now, I'm gonna cry.
          • right. definitely. i'm wondering, though, if people here whose babies are born -- mine's not due till sept -- have the sense that the baby feels more respecte, more heard, more validated and empowered through EC.

            one of my friends says she feels maybe it's more just for convenience -- but that to her it's not clear whose conveniences is under consideration. maybe it's more for the parents than the babies.

            so far i really don't have any opinions on this or firsthand experience of it. just an openness and curiousity.
  • i have tried ec with my 12 month old daughter a handful of times. i have noticed that i always know when she has to poo so several times i have swooped her up and held her on the potty and it has worked! i haven't done this with her peeing though which i really should. i don't know why i haven't! we cloth diaper though and some of my fitteds are too cute to use a cover with :p so that is definitely good for getting to know her patterns.

    congrats to you though on being successful with ec. i think it's really amazing to know your child so well! goodluck mama!
    • We didn't do EC with Sam because by the time I learned about it he was too old--we tried to begin late but he wanted nothing to do with that potty and really resented being directed toward it. He now does a lot of naked time and we're working on him getting to the potty on his own, but mostly I just clean up after him. In this way he is learning his own body signals.

      I think EC is more respectful of the child. Diapering can suppress a baby's natural connection to his own body. I think that a baby who's been encouraged to respond to his own signals from birth becomes a person who doesn't have to learn that later on. Eseentially, diapering suppresses a person's natural instincts and then they have to be retrained just when they've gotten used to using diapers. I am really, really bummed we didn't start EC from the very beginning. That's the only thing I'd do different from Sam's babyhood.

      He hates diapers, hates getting them changed. I think he hates being immobilized, put on his back, that sort of thing. I try to change him standing up. I don't put his night time diaper on until after her goes to sleep then put on diaper and PJ's. He likes his freedom, he likes his boy bits (!). Of course, I like my clean carpet so it's hard to find a balance, but we seem to be working it out.

      I can't see how EC would be for the paren'ts convenience. It's not something that sounds particularly convenient in the beginning, though it's great later on when the kids don't need to learn to use the potty. I think diapering is what is conveninet for us when they're tiny.
      • We've been doing EC on a very part time basis, meaning that she wears diapers while with her caregiver, and with us, but we do drop her on the potty first thing in the morning (a normal time for her to go) and we can normally catch her poops if we're at home or if we have our bjorn potty with us while we're away. We really think of it as her being used to the idea of the concept of using the potty, and we think ultimately it will make it easier for her to transition to exclusively using the potty.

        I should say, that she is 11 months this week - and we introduced the potty at 3 months . She really didn't use it until she was 6 months or so, and It's gotten easier as she's gotten older. But introducing it to her at definitely helped getting her used to the potty


        and there is an EC tribe! see here:

        tribes.tribe.net/eliminati...munication

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